Sunday Thoughts: What Makes You Cry?

The other day I was recording the podcast. It’s something that seems like a good idea before I start, and then instantly regret as I get made fun of the next two hours; clearly I don’t mind too much as I come back the next week. Before we started the recording (that’s right, there’s stuff you miss out on), Peter asked me an interesting question, one that prompted a fast chain reaction in memory. We were discussing modern music and whether it was any good when he threw a minor curve ball at me.

“What songs make you feel feelings Kris?” It was an unexpected question to be honest, and a bit of a turn for the conversation; instantly digging up a whole wealth of emotions.

There are a couple of songs that can plunge a knife into my heart like no others, that can have an effect even in simply recalling them. I’m not saying these are good songs, I know one of them really isn’t, but nevertheless these are songs that can get me just about every time, songs that it is physically hard for me to hear.

[drop]First is Autoclave by The Mountain Goats. This is a band (well an artist really) that a friend of mine got me into, a friend who likes to make playlists and mixtapes for people; that’s just the kind of guy he is.

I had just been broken up with by someone I was, or at least thought I was, deeply in love with. Someone I had been in various degrees of love with for seven years, someone who had been a constant in my life for longer than just about anyone I knew and someone that, if things had been different, I probably would have settled down with.

I won’t go into why, but she ended it and after getting to a reasonable level of drunk this song was handed over to me.

You know when you’re sixteen, you get dumped for the first time and it’s the end of the world? When you lie in bed listening to the same song for hours on end? This was that song. I was twenty-two at the time, and it wasn’t my first break up; it wasn’t even my break up with that particular girl. However, it hurt like hell and I ended up listening to Autoclave a disconcerting number of times. Even now it’s hard to listen to, and I don’t just mean on an emotional level. My throat closes up and I can’t breath, my eyes fill with tears and I can feel my heart rate change.

The other song I mentioned is, perhaps embarrassingly, Cemetry Drive by My Chemical Romance. My aunt had died (finally giving in to cancer), I was a teenager, I was full of hormones and angry at everything; although it was all internalised and pointing inwards. For some reason I recall it raining a lot, but it was probably no more than normal.

I used to go out in the evenings and walk along the beach in the rain, hurling stones into the sea; my parents were convinced I was going to meet a girl. The song fit my mood, and it can still take me back to that time in an instant. Eventually I made my peace and moved on, but the song still takes me back to a time of unparalleled sadness and uncapped rage.

To be perfectly honest there are other songs that will stir emotions and bring a brief tear to the eye, but nothing like these two. It’s not just songs either, there’s books that make me want to bawl like a baby and films that bring me near to sobbing. Whilst those songs are more permanent, there’s plenty that can draw emotions in most media.

Here’s the important bit though, it rarely happens in games. There’s one moment in Halo: Reach that gets me, and I’ve talked about it before. What brings me back to this topic is Kara, the tech demo that Quantic Dream were showing at GDC this week. I’d written this off without seeing it, and I feel idiotic saying that now.

After curiosity finally getting the better of me I took a look and was underwhelmed. It looked nice enough, but it didn’t seem particularly powerful or interesting; I didn’t get why people were so excited. And then there’s a point where the whole thing suddenly pivots.

[drop2]If you’ve watched the video you’ll know the point I mean. If you haven’t you should really go take a look. You can thank me afterwards.

Kara didn’t make me cry, but it brought me damned close. It had the same effect Autoclave does, my breathing shifted, my heart rate changed. It plucked the right strings perfectly and, quite honestly, amazed me. I hadn’t been interested in Heavy Rain before, now I really think I need to go play it. If Quantic can achieve that much in a seven minute tech demo I want to see what they can do with a full game.

I do wonder why so few games have really grabbed me emotionally though, what it is about the medium. People say games are still young, still finding their footing. It’s hard to say whether that’s true or not, and harder to judge whether or not games are, on average, finding more emotional depth as the industry moves ever onwards. A game can certainly be evocative, can grab you through time and space; Sonic the Hedgehog does it to this day.

A game’s never made me feel like I do when I listen to Autoclave though, and weirdly I’m still waiting for a game to really make me hurt.

40 Comments

  1. Heavy Rain is probably the only emotional game, I played..The father and son bound was shown very well in this game how a man can go to the end of the world for their child. Especially that gruesome bit with the finger, that was emotional…

    Only Usher let it burn made me cry while singing it

  2. I watched the Kara demo and wasn’t even close to tears at all.
    Not sure what everyone else was watching…?

    Maybe I’ve just got a heart of steel.

    • It’s the bit when she begs that got me.

  3. When I lost characters in ME3, and made silly mistakes in other games, it doesn’t make me cry; but it certainly makes me sad.

    • I was very protective of Lydia in Skyrim because I didn’t want her to die, so yeah. I guess :P

  4. A song called ‘Ulysses’ by Josh Garrels. Hits me hard every time!

  5. Heavy Rain didn’t do much for me and there were times during the game that I wanted to slap Ethan, I identified more with Madison. Guess that’s because I’m not a parent.
    The Kara demo though was quite emotional, would it have been if it was a male robot I wonder?

    • I very much doubt it, if it were a child perhaps but I think if it were an adult male saying those things it would have just seemed a little pathetic. But that’s society for you.

  6. Spoilers (potentially) for Ico, SOTC.

    Ico was quite emotional in parts, especially during the key scenes and the final collapse of the castle was powerful stuff but not a patch on Shadow of the Colossus with Agro falling. Man… every time it still gets me.

    The games industry is still in its infancy when it comes to the portrayal of the real world (and especially organic matter as complex as trees, water, flora, fauna, humans, emotions (esp.). Thankfully, there are some developers who are really trying to push this area and they are the ones who earn the (often) quiet respect of the entire industry.

  7. Kara wasn’t anything special but then you haven’t seen Heavy Rain. You should definitely smack the motherplumber who suggested you not to buy that.

  8. “I do wonder why so few games have really grabbed me emotionally though” – yeah well no wonder. I still think it’s the matter of choosing the right games. There are so many overlooked gems this gen but people end up playing a generic shooter (i love shooters, poor example) and then moaning about their own choice.

  9. my xperia play hasn’t arrived yet….
    it saddens me that every day i dont get a shiny parcel from posty pat???

    • If its not arrived by tomorrow then email me and I’ll chase it up :)

      • ok matey will do what is your email addy?

      • doh i am stupid!!!!!!!
        sorry adam im a joey!

  10. Had my second YLOD this weekend since Oct, that almost brought a tear to my eye. Apart form the Kara demo, the only scenario that springs to mind atm, is the way Roman Belic exited from the story.

    • err not that i cried at his depature, but sad to see him leave all the same.

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